Being A Positive Role Model For Our Kids
I always struggled with body image growing up. I started to break out when I was 10, and I had braces at 11 and around the same time my body started changing. I wore baggy sweaters to cover up my developing breasts, slathered my face in make-up to try and cover up the pimples and rarely opened my mouth to keep the braces hidden.
At some point, I started to develop a negative relationship with food, and for many years struggled with eating issues. I was always surrounded by magazines that pictured thin, beautiful women and at the time I didn’t realize that they weren’t perfect.
I became so focused on the numbers of the scale that I didn’t focus on being healthy. It was all about the number. I eventually learned to ignore the number and focus on being healthy; eating healthy food and being physically active – that is what was important, not the number on the scale.
Over the years, I have noticed is that there is a lot of talk about positive body image and self-esteem for girls, but not so much for boys.
As a mom of 2 boys, I don’t really understand this. I know many men that struggled with body image (whether it was weight or height, muscles etc) so why is there not the same focus on them. Boys with poor body image and self-esteem seem to fall through the cracks, and I am determined not to let that happen with my 2 sons.
The thing is – it all starts at home. If your children see you looking at your body negatively, they are going to start to do the same. When kids look at their parents, they see perfection. They think we are beautiful the way we are and they are right. The next time you start to criticize your weight or your wrinkles or whatever it is you don’t like about your body – stop and think about your kids. Think about what you would tell them if they were saying those things about themselves.
Be the person you want your kids to be.
My name is Ashley, I am an Ottawa born and raised, 30 something woman, wife and mother of 2 rambunctious boys. You can find me blogging about life with my crazy boys a talesofmommyhood.com.